Comments on: Children Make Us Miserable http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/ The Sweet Release of Reason Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:11:50 +0000 hourly 1 By: pregnancy stages http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13479 pregnancy stages Mon, 20 Jul 2009 23:04:11 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13479 Maybe your children make you miserable. Mine never made me feel or look like this. In my opinion kids are a gift and it should be received accordingly. What about all the families that want to have a children and can`t? what about them? I think they really feel miserable not someone who have kids. Maybe your children make you miserable. Mine never made me feel or look like this. In my opinion kids are a gift and it should be received accordingly. What about all the families that want to have a children and can`t? what about them? I think they really feel miserable not someone who have kids.

]]> By: Villagemom http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13478 Villagemom Thu, 09 Jul 2009 12:09:37 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13478 Sometimes I think I am the luckiest mom around. I divorced my children's father a few years ago and have since remarried. My 6 and 9 year old spend every other weekend (Fri-Tues) with their dad and his girlfriend and we alternate holidays and split summers. My kids have 2 dads now that contribute resources (emotional and financial) to their upbringing plus my ex's girlfriend helps out too. I also regularly call on my parents to take the kids for a weekend or week here and there which they all absolutely love. The bottom line: it takes a village to raise a family. Maybe our brains just haven't evolved to raise kids in the nuclear family (isolated away from extended family) and so perhaps that is what makes it so hard and unpleasant? And it can get UNPLEASANT to say the least. How much can two people (the parents) take??? It is absolutely 110% better now that there are 4-6 other people who are actively involved in my kids upbringing and every day I thank my lucky stars for the arrangement I've got. My kids are very well adjusted, stable, and most of all know that they are loved by the people who care for them. Sometimes I think I am the luckiest mom around. I divorced my children's father a few years ago and have since remarried. My 6 and 9 year old spend every other weekend (Fri-Tues) with their dad and his girlfriend and we alternate holidays and split summers. My kids have 2 dads now that contribute resources (emotional and financial) to their upbringing plus my ex's girlfriend helps out too. I also regularly call on my parents to take the kids for a weekend or week here and there which they all absolutely love. The bottom line: it takes a village to raise a family. Maybe our brains just haven't evolved to raise kids in the nuclear family (isolated away from extended family) and so perhaps that is what makes it so hard and unpleasant? And it can get UNPLEASANT to say the least. How much can two people (the parents) take??? It is absolutely 110% better now that there are 4-6 other people who are actively involved in my kids upbringing and every day I thank my lucky stars for the arrangement I've got. My kids are very well adjusted, stable, and most of all know that they are loved by the people who care for them.

]]> By: Arkansas Adoption http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13477 Arkansas Adoption Wed, 27 May 2009 07:35:01 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13477 marriage, age, and religion, really matters in a family. In a couple having a child is their happiness, some couples deciding to adopt a child because of some problems.. marriage, age, and religion, really matters in a family. In a couple having a child is their happiness, some couples deciding to adopt a child because of some problems..

]]> By: freestyle http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13476 freestyle Sun, 10 May 2009 14:59:57 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13476 This is one of the best posts i read on your blog, you have covered the topic really well. Keep up the great work.<br><br>Emma This is one of the best posts i read on your blog, you have covered the topic really well. Keep up the great work.

Emma

]]> By: ovulation days http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13475 ovulation days Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:55:21 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13475 Many women however strange know what ovulation<br>Ovulation – it is the stage of menstrual cycle, during which in one of ovaries a follicle is torn and formed yellow body. That, during ovulation ripening ovule, ready to the impregnation, goes out from a follicle and follows to the uterus on uterine pipes (by their hairs). In an uterus at this time there is transformation of mucous membrane – endometriya. New mews appear in him, the network of blood vessels broadens. All of it is necessary in order that, in the case of impregnation, an embryo got nutritives. A yellow body is sekretiruet hormones, especially important during pregnancy here. Menstruation begins in opposite case, and a yellow body is exposed to gradual regress. Many women however strange know what ovulation
Ovulation – it is the stage of menstrual cycle, during which in one of ovaries a follicle is torn and formed yellow body. That, during ovulation ripening ovule, ready to the impregnation, goes out from a follicle and follows to the uterus on uterine pipes (by their hairs). In an uterus at this time there is transformation of mucous membrane – endometriya. New mews appear in him, the network of blood vessels broadens. All of it is necessary in order that, in the case of impregnation, an embryo got nutritives. A yellow body is sekretiruet hormones, especially important during pregnancy here. Menstruation begins in opposite case, and a yellow body is exposed to gradual regress.

]]> By: sm http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13474 sm Mon, 08 Dec 2008 03:05:07 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13474 unbelievably thoughtful and nondefensive comment, which is what you often hear from people with children who don't like these types of studies. I will definitely take your introspective words into account as I decide whether or not to have children. unbelievably thoughtful and nondefensive comment, which is what you often hear from people with children who don't like these types of studies. I will definitely take your introspective words into account as I decide whether or not to have children.

]]> By: Amanda http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13473 Amanda Thu, 07 Aug 2008 11:10:33 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13473 I think it can depends to some degree on what sort of temperament your child/children have, as to how they make you feel. We have a 5-year-old boy, who, right from the word go, had a VERY strong character, and never in my wildest dreams did I imagine it was going to be so emotionally hard raising a child. The baby-phase was tough; we have no family around us, and our little boy was Colicky. The toddler tantrums were unbelieveable, and nothing we tried made them easier to handle, and even now at the age of 5 he can still reduce me to tears. Yes, he brings us joy, and we are a fun-loving family who spend plenty of quality time together and focus very much on our son's emotional wellbeing, but there is no way we want any more children. Our marriage is important to us, and if we had any more, we would be more stressed than we are now with that extra responsibility, more tired, and we'd have less time together as a couple until they had grown up. But that's not the only reason we don't want any more; we feel that we don't have to cave in to pressure from the rest of society that children SHOULD HAVE siblings. Half of my friends don't even speak to their siblings, and a good friend of mine who was brought up and only child always says she had the best childhood ever. Adding one or more children to a family can (and I see it with friends who have more than one) add to everyday pressures and make parents (particulary stay-at-home mums) miserable. With one child we feel we have everything - a beautiful son, time for ourselves as a couple, and enough stress to contend with thank you very much! It sounds negative, but I don't think that children are the be all and end all of adult happiness. I used to think they were, but now I have a child of my own I can totally understand why some people choose a child-free life. I think it can depends to some degree on what sort of temperament your child/children have, as to how they make you feel. We have a 5-year-old boy, who, right from the word go, had a VERY strong character, and never in my wildest dreams did I imagine it was going to be so emotionally hard raising a child. The baby-phase was tough; we have no family around us, and our little boy was Colicky. The toddler tantrums were unbelieveable, and nothing we tried made them easier to handle, and even now at the age of 5 he can still reduce me to tears. Yes, he brings us joy, and we are a fun-loving family who spend plenty of quality time together and focus very much on our son’s emotional wellbeing, but there is no way we want any more children. Our marriage is important to us, and if we had any more, we would be more stressed than we are now with that extra responsibility, more tired, and we’d have less time together as a couple until they had grown up. But that’s not the only reason we don’t want any more; we feel that we don’t have to cave in to pressure from the rest of society that children SHOULD HAVE siblings. Half of my friends don’t even speak to their siblings, and a good friend of mine who was brought up and only child always says she had the best childhood ever. Adding one or more children to a family can (and I see it with friends who have more than one) add to everyday pressures and make parents (particulary stay-at-home mums) miserable. With one child we feel we have everything – a beautiful son, time for ourselves as a couple, and enough stress to contend with thank you very much! It sounds negative, but I don’t think that children are the be all and end all of adult happiness. I used to think they were, but now I have a child of my own I can totally understand why some people choose a child-free life.

]]> By: Amanda http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13504 Amanda Thu, 07 Aug 2008 11:10:00 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13504 I think it can depends to some degree on what sort of temperament your child/children have, as to how they make you feel. We have a 5-year-old boy, who, right from the word go, had a VERY strong character, and never in my wildest dreams did I imagine it was going to be so emotionally hard raising a child. The baby-phase was tough; we have no family around us, and our little boy was Colicky. The toddler tantrums were unbelieveable, and nothing we tried made them easier to handle, and even now at the age of 5 he can still reduce me to tears. Yes, he brings us joy, and we are a fun-loving family who spend plenty of quality time together and focus very much on our son's emotional wellbeing, but there is no way we want any more children. Our marriage is important to us, and if we had any more, we would be more stressed than we are now with that extra responsibility, more tired, and we'd have less time together as a couple until they had grown up. But that's not the only reason we don't want any more; we feel that we don't have to cave in to pressure from the rest of society that children SHOULD HAVE siblings. Half of my friends don't even speak to their siblings, and a good friend of mine who was brought up and only child always says she had the best childhood ever. Adding one or more children to a family can (and I see it with friends who have more than one) add to everyday pressures and make parents (particulary stay-at-home mums) miserable. With one child we feel we have everything - a beautiful son, time for ourselves as a couple, and enough stress to contend with thank you very much! It sounds negative, but I don't think that children are the be all and end all of adult happiness. I used to think they were, but now I have a child of my own I can totally understand why some people choose a child-free life. I think it can depends to some degree on what sort of temperament your child/children have, as to how they make you feel. We have a 5-year-old boy, who, right from the word go, had a VERY strong character, and never in my wildest dreams did I imagine it was going to be so emotionally hard raising a child. The baby-phase was tough; we have no family around us, and our little boy was Colicky. The toddler tantrums were unbelieveable, and nothing we tried made them easier to handle, and even now at the age of 5 he can still reduce me to tears. Yes, he brings us joy, and we are a fun-loving family who spend plenty of quality time together and focus very much on our son’s emotional wellbeing, but there is no way we want any more children. Our marriage is important to us, and if we had any more, we would be more stressed than we are now with that extra responsibility, more tired, and we’d have less time together as a couple until they had grown up. But that’s not the only reason we don’t want any more; we feel that we don’t have to cave in to pressure from the rest of society that children SHOULD HAVE siblings. Half of my friends don’t even speak to their siblings, and a good friend of mine who was brought up and only child always says she had the best childhood ever. Adding one or more children to a family can (and I see it with friends who have more than one) add to everyday pressures and make parents (particulary stay-at-home mums) miserable. With one child we feel we have everything – a beautiful son, time for ourselves as a couple, and enough stress to contend with thank you very much! It sounds negative, but I don’t think that children are the be all and end all of adult happiness. I used to think they were, but now I have a child of my own I can totally understand why some people choose a child-free life.

]]> By: Children from Hell http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13472 Children from Hell Tue, 03 Jun 2008 00:43:39 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13472 My kids make me miserable. They don't listen, they fight all the time, they don't clean, the oldest is a hermit, the middle one is a trouble maker, and the youngest is just hyper. Yeah, I do love them with everything I have but they just don't understand that money doesn't grow on trees and they're hard as hell to raise. They don't understand that it takes sleep to work a graveyard job. Oh, and the dad? Well, he pretends to be interested and "tries" to see them every other weekend and then blames all their problems on me. I'm about ready to pull my flipping hair out! My kids make me miserable. They don’t listen, they fight all the time, they don’t clean, the oldest is a hermit, the middle one is a trouble maker, and the youngest is just hyper. Yeah, I do love them with everything I have but they just don’t understand that money doesn’t grow on trees and they’re hard as hell to raise. They don’t understand that it takes sleep to work a graveyard job.

Oh, and the dad? Well, he pretends to be interested and “tries” to see them every other weekend and then blames all their problems on me.

I’m about ready to pull my flipping hair out!

]]> By: Children from Hell http://willwilkinson.net/flybottle/2008/04/04/children-make-us-miserable/#comment-13505 Children from Hell Tue, 03 Jun 2008 00:43:00 +0000 http://www.willwilkinson.net/flybottle/?p=1381#comment-13505 My kids make me miserable. They don't listen, they fight all the time, they don't clean, the oldest is a hermit, the middle one is a trouble maker, and the youngest is just hyper. Yeah, I do love them with everything I have but they just don't understand that money doesn't grow on trees and they're hard as hell to raise. They don't understand that it takes sleep to work a graveyard job. Oh, and the dad? Well, he pretends to be interested and "tries" to see them every other weekend and then blames all their problems on me. I'm about ready to pull my flipping hair out! My kids make me miserable. They don’t listen, they fight all the time, they don’t clean, the oldest is a hermit, the middle one is a trouble maker, and the youngest is just hyper. Yeah, I do love them with everything I have but they just don’t understand that money doesn’t grow on trees and they’re hard as hell to raise. They don’t understand that it takes sleep to work a graveyard job.

Oh, and the dad? Well, he pretends to be interested and “tries” to see them every other weekend and then blames all their problems on me.

I’m about ready to pull my flipping hair out!

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